Thursday, 5 December 2013

today I am wearing...

I love Mix clothing. Shopping at Coles is no longer such a chore due to the anticipation of what new dresses may have come in during the week. 

This black jersey cowl neck racer-back dress was $19!  Bloody bargain.  It's so similar to dresses in Witchery for at least $100 more. Since buying it several week back I have worn it regularly, with or without a belt. I love it (and I don't need to wear a bra - yeeehaaa)!

I'm out to lunch in the city today, it's hot and sunny, so this dress is perfect.

Mix Apparel dress, Basque belt, Witchery sling backs

Tuesday, 3 December 2013

miss bunny-moss

As you know I have a girl crush on Kate Moss. We really would be best friends if we ever met. Kate, Angie and me - what a threesome we would make!

I love that Hugh wanted Kate for the 60th Anniversary issue of Playboy. Classy, elegant, skanky, whore, all in one sexy small breasted package. 

Oh, have you noticed the stilettos? Yes, you're spot on! My shoes! My beautiful, perfect Christian Louboutin a Pigalle 120s! Really no other shoe would do!

The launch party was held at Marc Jacobs in London. Only Kate (looking like Bridget Bardot) could make that coat look good! A serious style icon is this little lady.

Marc Jacobs, London

Playboy 60th Anniversary Cover. Love it!

Kate Moss as Miss Playboy Bunny

God she's gorgeous.  Oh Kate...

The icon herself
Kate arriving at the launch

Wednesday, 20 November 2013

a storm in an a cup

I went bra shopping today. Who would of thought buying a bra when you're flat chested would be so bloody difficult?! Well I tell you it is! Flipping hard. There are choices galore for huge baps, with cups as big as hats, but ask for the small breasted selection and pfft! Nothing. Do all women have massive tits nowadays? Is everyone a D or an E? Even the A cups are designed for full, pert, round hooters! 

Maybe I should start designing bras for women who only have skin to hold up! The 'I breast fed my knockers away to nothing but skin and just need something to hide my sticky-outy nipples' section.

I spent over two hours trying on bras and eventually came away with two black training bras! One cotton and one lace. Designed for Tweens! How sad is that? 
I'm just sick of wearing uncomfortable padding. I feel like I'm taking off a pair of fake tits everytime I take off my bra. And they are so uncomfortable! I'm happy to be bra-less most of the time, but there are occasions when, as a 40-year-old mother of two, it's just not an appropriate look.

Yes I could of choosen one of those horrible nylon bras that look like a pair of tights (or pantyhose). Ugly as fk. Or just bought yet another pretty A cup that does nothing at all other than remind me that I have 'no filling' for the cups! But that's crap! Really, is it too much to ask for a reasonably priced, pretty, lacy, simple, comfortable, non-under wired bra that is for a flat chest? Ugh. Maybe I should just bite the bullet and get implants...

The cotton one

The lacy one

Tuesday, 19 November 2013


I wish I had been warned. Why aren't women warned? Would it have made a difference? Could I have been more prepared? There was a vague mentioned of 'baby blues', but nothing that could prepare me for the absolute shock of becoming a mother. 

Or should the happily pregnant just enjoy the anticipation without more worry?

I'm talking about post natal depression. Being a new, first timer, alone with a tiny, needy, fragile baby. Your baby. Your responsibility. That terrible feeling of, 'Oh my God, what the fuck have I done?' Of being trapped and frustrated and confused and angry. Of wanting to just walk away. Of wanting my old life back. Of grieving for our old just-the-two-of-us relationship. The insanely strong feelings of love combined with confusion, frustration, tiredness and guilt.

I think had a mild case of it with my first. It lasted for about ten months, maybe longer. I can't really remember when the fog lifted. It just did. By the time Miss L was born I was myself again.

Reading Eleanor Limprecht's book,'What Was Left' has brought it all back to me. I haven't finished the story yet, but I'm really enjoying it. I can really relate to the main character and understand a lot of what she feels... I'd recommend the book to anyone who struggled a bit in those early, lonely days of motherhood.

Looking back at photos and videos of that time, still fill me with an uncomfortable sense of dread. Guilt that I didn't just relax and enjoy my sweet baby more. Pity for my sad, sorry, tired, zombie-like self. And a overwhelming relief that I got through it. 

As I have said before, I thank my dear Mr S for getting me through. It was just the two of us in a new country, in a new city, in a new apartment, with no family or support. At all. Never. No one to call on. No one to take the baby for an hour or two. Just us. I can't imagine what it must have been like for him. Coming home from a new job, to a wreck of a wife and a little needy baby. But we did it. Together we got through and I'm proud of the job we've done. I guess as the saying goes, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 

What was Left by Eleanor Limprecht 

Thursday, 14 November 2013

today I am wearing...

This is the forth and final dress purchased from the Supre $5 sale. A classic one shoulder black jersey maxi (that awful word again!). A bloody bargain. And it's the right length for me which is a rarity. Normally long dresses are way too long (because I'm a short arse) and I can never be bothered with re-hemming. Today I'm wearing the dress with thongs, but it'd be nice with heels too. 

I had a very quick browse in a few shops today, but there was nothing that caught my eye at all. So now I have that disappointed, I-wanted-to-buy-something-but-didn't sulky feeling. Ugh. All the shoes are awful too. Ugly, ugly shoes a plenty. It's not very often that I'm not longing for a new pair. It feels a bit odd not to be obsessing over a new pair of heels. Maybe because I have my beautiful Christian Louboutin Pigalles, I am complete... Ummm. Give it time...

Friday, 8 November 2013

3 of the 4

This dress is a bit of a different look for me, but for $5, I thought I'd give it a go. This is item number three from the Supre $5 sale (see last weeks post). It's super dooper comfy on and I love that I don't need a bra, due to the low sides, so it's great for summer.

Little Miss L wasn't impressed though and asked if I'd do the 'drop and go' at school rather do than our normal walk into the playground for a kiss goodbye. I asked her why and she wouldn't answer. Then it suddenly hit me that she didn't like my outfit. I asked her if she was embarrassed by me, or what I was wearing and she just cringed and said, "I just don't want you to come in Mum!" 

Bloody charming! Do all mothers embarrass their kids at some point?  Mine did because they were old, they stood out and I hated them coming to school. I never really thought I'd embarrass mine though, other than the normal growing up and not wanting to be seen hanging around your parents stage.  I said to Miss L, "Imagine if I was fat and wore ugly shoes and horrible frumpy dresses! Look around you - I'm a cool Mummy!".  She still wasn't impressed, just shrugged her shoulders and made me promise not to go beyond the entrance gates!

Rainbow Supre $5 sale dress with Havaianas (thongs)

Thursday, 7 November 2013

today I am wearing...

I popped into Coles for some milk yesterday and came out with a new dress. I couldn't resist it. Mix has a great range of simple summer dresses at the moment for only $19 each.

Here are my favourites, including the one I'm wearing today.

Stripe Side Gathered Dress $19
Asymmetrical Maxi Dress $19
Stripe Rib Tank Dress $19                                           Fine Crochet Dress $19

Mix Side Gathered Dress $19 with tan Witchery wedges

Monday, 4 November 2013

today I am wearing...

Happy Monday peeps. The weekend went way to quick. I gorged myself on too much food and over did it.  Lime and passion fruit cheesecake, custard filled profiteroles, crispy seaweed, and such a mouth wateringly good curry - yum! (Not so good the morning after when I felt like curry stench was seeping out of all my pores!)

To hide my gluttony, today I am wearing dress two (of four) from the Supre $5 Sale. This one is so super comfy on (and I don't need a bra which is always a bonus). I am fighting the urge to go back and see if I missed any other $5 bargain styles... I must stay strong. I don't need any more!

Simple black jersey sun dress $5 (as $40)

Thursday, 31 October 2013

primal hunger or just an itch to scratch?

Lots of sex talk this weekend, discussing likes and dislikes. It's so bloody fascinating isn't it.  No matter how old you are, the evolution of needs, wants and preferences is just one of those topics I could discuss for hours on end. It amazes me what a huge spectrum there is, from prudish to extreme, and everything in between.

I have just finished reading Nikki Gemmell's I Take You. It was okay. Her books are getting a little repetitive and silly, but I read it quickly and it got me thinking about what is 'normal' nowadays. It also made me question my own preferences and what is and isn't off limits, because I hate think I'm missing out on something, but then again, I don't feel the pressure to 'explore' any more. I've been there and done most of it. I know what I like and what I absolutely don't. To be honest, I'm glad I'm not in that phase of my life where you have to experiment and challenge and push boundaries. 

I guess the thing that I am most surprised by, is that age doesn't necessarily dampen a persons sex drive. I presumed, naively, that as you got older you'd want 'it' less, but from talking to others (people of all ages), that isn't the case.


Wednesday, 30 October 2013

supre sale

Supre is not a shop I frequent. Figure hugging, short, Lycra clothes for the under 30s - usually. Yesterday however, this was not the case. I happened to be at DFO (buying a fascinator for a Melbourne Cup lunch next week) when my eyes popped at the words Supre $5 SALE! Oooo happy days!!! It was a bit of a jumble inside the store, rack upon rack of dresses, but I still ended up in the changing room with about 16 things to try on! I came away with four dresses and a (hate the word) pant-suit! Perfect dresses for summer, including the one below. The other three are long. All jersey and super wearable. All $5! I'll post pics soon.

Brisbane ladies, get yourself down to DFO!

Opps! Should have sucked my stomach in - it looks like a fanny!

Supre $5 (was $40) stripey dress and tan Witchery wedges

Friday, 25 October 2013

bloody ugly shoes

These shoes aren't aimed for women over 30, but unfortunately they will be worn by women who get sucked into what's 'on trend' and forget that it's actually about what looks good on them...

This seasons summer shoes are quite frankly ugly and are just way to reminiscent of shoes for people who have something wrong with their legs or feet (without wanting to sound mean about the disabled)... My English teacher at school, Mr Saunders, had not choice but to wear hideous shoes not dissimilar to these ghastly examples.  He suffered from Polio as a child, one leg was a lot shorter than the other, so had to wear a huge platform on one foot.  He was a cool teacher, everyone liked him, so no one took the piss, but those shoes... They are burnt into my memory. Uggghhh.

I will NOT be buying any of these My Tony Bianco. 

If any of my dear readers are insane enough to like these you can buy them here.

Tony Bianco Ranee in white $189.95
Tony Bianco Jayme in black $109.95
Tony Bianco Bella in black suede $149.95

Tony Bianco Jener in white $159.95

Tony Bianco Deon in fudge $159.95

Tony Bianco Radical in black $159.95

Wednesday, 23 October 2013

middle aged madness

I've just finished a booked called Mutton by India Knight. I really enjoyed it and must admit to giggling quite a few times whilst reading. It's a story of a 46 year old divorced mother of three who starts to question what's 'age appropriate' when you're in your 40s. I am a little embarrassed at how much I related to this book, which is essentially an honest exploration of what it means to be a female hitting 'middle age' and what happens when the builders stop whistling at you, lines start to appear on your face and you start to question what you can wear so that you still look cool without being 'mutton'.

This book resonated with me because it's a strange phase of life that I'm currently journeying into. I'm not really 'young' anymore, and while I'm totally okay with that, I am actually quite content and happy with myself, I don't want to be 'old'.  At some point in the next decade, no matter how fit and healthy, I will cross that line of looking middle aged, and I admit I don't like the prospect of becoming invisible. But then again I don't want to become obsessed with looking great no matter what cost. 

Once again, as always, it's all about balance isn't it? About being happy with yourself and surrounding yourself with honest, like minded people who 'get' you and your quirks and just enjoy the here and now and making the most of what you have.

Tuesday, 22 October 2013

pregnancy no no

No I'm certainly not pregnant. And this isn't a mumsy blog. But I have to tell you, I was truly shocked by something I saw the other day, outside my local shopping centre, as I walked back to my car.

So shocked that I couldn't help but stare with a confused, horrified, disgusted look on my face (oh dear I'm turning into an old hag who looks like she's sucking on a sour sweet). There was a young lady (well younger than me) massively, heavily, stomach strainingly, about to pop any minute pregnant, walking along with her partner - sucking on a cigarette! I mean deep drags, filling her lungs like her life depended on it. She saw me. I couldn't look away. She enjoyed seeing my horror struck face, so she took another long drag and blew the smoke in my direction!

Who does that? It's 2013. We know better. Who smokes (in broad sunny day public), without a care in the world while pregnant?! I'm sorry but what a skank. No excuses. 

Sunday, 20 October 2013

mid life tantrums

Do you suffer from tantrums? I do. I had one this morning. After spending a lovely restlessful couple of hours, reading, topping up my tan by the pool. I came inside for lunch, discovered my first born had been reading all morning and outspewed a rant about homework and deadlines and getting your priorities right (like a bloody broken record). Then I accidentally knocked the cheesy biscuits tin off the side of the kitchen counter and we both stood in silence for a moment, staring at the broken biscuits all over the floor, waiting for my reaction to come... would it be nice mummy or horrible mummy?

My thoughts were, one, take a deep breath, laugh, say, "Opps silly mummy!" and sweep them up. Two, erupt. I chose two. I couldn't contain it. Really, I couldn't. And out it came! Wooosh! Nasty, childish, horrible words and accusations and fault blaming. All directed at my clever, polite, sweet, but not-as-on-top-of-his-assignments-as-he-could-be, boy. Oh dear. I've said it before, but sometimes I do think I should of just stuck to raising cats... 

Saturday, 19 October 2013

summer sandals

Ummm. I like the sandals a lot. They're $769 from Saint Laurent. Perfect for summer. Ummm. I want.

Thursday, 17 October 2013

today I am wearing...

I really like playsuits (hate the name, sounds like something a baby or a Playboy Bunny would wear), they are perfect for casual summer wear. I got this one yesterday at Cotton On for $19.95.  It's soft and light and comfy. I'll wear it a lot over the sunny season.

There are some really lovely ones around in the shops, casual or smart, and thankfully not all of them are designed for 12 year olds - by that I mean, so short that you need legs like a supermodel to wear one.

Cotton On Cuban Strappy Playsuit $19.95

Cotton On Potty Playsuit $19.95
Cotton On Cuban Playsuit $19.95
Cotton On Cuban Playsuit $19.95
Portmans Kendal Playsuit $89.95
Portmans Hayley Jumpsuit $89.95

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

wheels & dollbaby

I rather like these dresses by Sydney brand Wheels & Dollbaby. Very classic hourglass retro. The models aren't my 'cup of tea' (a bit too much porn star / biker chic vibe for me), but the dresses are lovely.

Ponti Supper Club Dress $195

Classic Corset Dress $395

Classic Bra Dress $260

Classic Corset Print Dress $335

Monday, 14 October 2013


Actors showing us their orgasmic faces to promote Lars Von Thier's new movie Nymphomaniac (Lars produced the controversial film Idiots in 98). Very effective and intriguing. I like them. I like the simple design of the images. The posters combined with Shia LaBeouf telling MTV News that the A Lister's would engage in real sex for the camera, has resulted in a lot of media coverage about this movie (it turns out they have cast porn actors for the real sex bits). 

So where do you stand on actual sex in movies, mainstream movies, not porn...? By that I mean proper movies that have story lines but also real sex scenes, rather than films just about the sex.

I'm undecided. No. Actually I think it's unnecessary. It turns a film, however good/arty the story into a porn film. Just a more 'high brow' one. It complicates the film and in some cases feels wrong, like you're perving on someone's most intimate moments. I feel it also crosses some kind of line with the actor too. Do we really need to see someone famous getting off whilst 'acting'?

I really enjoyed Caligula, the film starring Peter O'Toole, Helen Mirren and Malcolm McDowell. I first saw the uncut version in Amsterdam in the early 90s. A good film, but with porno bits and a big mass orgy.

And, 9 Songs, the 2006 film which features sex, masturbation, oral and ejaculation. A story about a normal couple and their relationship. Again, a good film, but it's still porn really. Would the film have even made headlines if it didn't have explicit footage? And I've never seen the actors in anything else.    

There have been a few others too, mainly European, but the English ones, you may have heard of include, Romance, Intimacy, Shortbus, Ken Park, and of course, Brown Bunny featuring Chloe Sevigny giving a blow job...(totally over rated!).

Maybe I'm just getting old, but I think some things are better left to your imagination. I find the subject of sex immensely fascinating and I am not anti porn at all (although there are limits and boundaries) but, I think in film, it's just to get attention. 



Sunday, 29 September 2013


Love these two looks from the ALMA Awards in LA. Especially Jessica Alba's sequin skirt and shirt combo. Nice.

Monday, 23 September 2013

Emmy red carpet misses

And now for my not so favourite looks. They are not ghastly, just not my cup of tea... Sorry ladies.

Zosia Mamet. The black 'bra' shape ruins this otherwise 
ok dress! I just don't like the top section at all.

Lena Headey. WTF are those shoes? Not right at all. And
the dress reminds me of a lacy bodystocking from the 80s.

Amanda Peet. What a mess! The crap hair, ugly sandals
and too much going on and not working at all dress!

Julianne Hough.  I would love this dress if I couldn't
see your granny pants! All I can look at is your gusset.

Emmy red carpet winners

So we're almost at the end of the 2013 Emmy Awards. Have you been watching live? I have, on and off. I can't help myself. But I'm annoyed and have to admit I shouted at the screen when Aaron Paul and Bryan Cranston missed out on their awards. They were ROBBED!  I am a HUGE Breaking Bad fan. There is no, and will never be, a better show! They deserved to bloody win! GRRRR...

Anyway back to the point. Fashion. Dresses. Beautiful people. Lots of likes this year. No real shockers. I'm impressed. No amazing or awful stand outs, just lots of pretty outfits.

In no particular order, here are my favs.

Claire Danes in Armani. Needs a bit pendant, but nice.

Julie Bowen. Love it. Perfect for the Emmys.

Kerry Washington in Marchesa. Wedding dressy but pretty.

January Jones. Very nude and plain, but nice.

Rose Byrne. Rose is always gorgeous. Flawless.

Malin Akerman. A bit wedding dressy but I like it.

Sarah Paulson. Classy.

Kiernan Shipka. Young and pretty and wearing perfect shoes.

Alison Williams. Plain and simple but love the colour.

Alyson Hannigan.  Love her in purple.